In the past week, the Supreme Court has reshaped and recast what it means to be American. We now live in a country where everyone can have access to health insurance, where everyone can seek justice in housing, and where everyone, regardless of their sexual orientation, can marry the person whom they choose. That last…

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FATHERHOOD was tough for me in 2014, because there were moments in which it was impossible to laugh. There was the moment when I had to explain to my 10-year-old son that I couldn’t buy him an Airsoft pistol, because someone could mistake it for a real gun and tragedy might ensue. I had no idea at the time that…

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Beverly Johnson is a game changer. Before Johnson hit the cover of American Vogue in 1974, black women weren’t gracing the covers of fashion magazines. In fact, if the magazine wasn’t Ebony, Jet, or Essence, seeing a woman of color in any of its pages was a rare occurrence. But by 1975, thanks to women…

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Being in love: The dope factor WHEN PEOPLE FALL IN LOVE it triggers events in the brain that are similar to mental illness (boy does that explain a lot). First our sex hormones are excited and awakened. Then dopamine—the same stuff that’s activated by cocaine—is released in the brain. Next comes adrenaline and a chemical called serotonin,…

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LAST WEEK was my 14th wedding anniversary. That’s right, the big one-four. I know 14 years isn’t a gold anniversary. It’s not even a silver anniversary, but maybe we could call it a copper anniversary, or a quartz anniversary, or a synthetic topaz anniversary. Why? Because divorce rates have doubled over the past 20 years…

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Question of the day So you’ve been married for a while, but your spouse knew their best friend before they knew you. Everything is fine until the day your spouse’s best friend hits on you. You know your spouse would literally assault the best friend if you revealed this information. Do you tell anyway and let…

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Question of the day In marriage, traditionally, women were the homemakers and men the breadwinners. Well today, many women make just as much if not more money than men. Since that’s the case, should roles be redefined? Should men embrace the role of house husband–doing the cooking, cleaning, and childrearing–while women fix pipes and mow the lawn?…

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Question of the day You are married and everything in the relationship is going well. You’re getting almost everything you want from the marriage–from financial security to much-needed companionship. There’s just one problem. You know your spouse is cheating. We know there are many people who are staying for the children, but what other reasons do…

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Question of the day: You’ve been married for quite some time, you’ve been steadily growing and gaining success in your career. You’ve gone back and received a few degrees but your spouse remains on stagnant. You don’t want to fuss and nag, but tension is mounting. There’s money in the middle of your marriage, but…

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Question of the day: It’s Scandal Thursday! In a previous episode we learned that the first lady, Millie, was sexually assaulted by her father-in-law, which now we see is one of the deep rooted issues she and the President are facing. Do you think she should reveal that secret in order to heal her marriage,…

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