With shootings happening daily and America divided on policing, with teens gathering by the hundreds and cities struggling for answers, it feels like we’re at a crossroads, and no one knows quite what to do.

But if you ask me there’s only one place to start–home training. 

If Americans would just get some home training, Ocean City wouldn’t have to shut down the boardwalk at 8 o’ clock over drunk and disorderly teens. You wouldn’t have teens jumping on cars at Finley in Mt. Airy, or Tustin in West Philly, or running buckwild at Penn’s Landing. ‘Cause as soon as that Instagram message showed up on that phone, home training would kick in and whisper, “Mom’s gonna kill me if she catches me in that crowd.”

And maybe, just maybe, things would change.  

Now, I’m not saying that’s gonna work for everybody. Sometimes it didn’t work for me. That’s why I thank God we didn’t have social media to organize chaos when I was a kid. ‘Cause back then, if we had that, I might not have made it to adulthood. But even though I didn’t have a cell phone to plan my mayhem, I did have home training. And eventually, after bumping my head more than once, that home training kicked in.

When SEPTA’s not safe and a 15 year old is shot dead on the 23. When there’s shootings on the platforms at 52nd Street last week and 15th Street on Monday. When Memorial Day weekend makes memorials for seven more shooting victims, we need families, we need parenting, we need home training. 

Policing by itself won’t do it, stopping and frisking people won’t do it. Takeovers by the state won’t do it. Solving America’s problems must start with home training. And the only place to get that … is at home.