LAST WEEKEND, after 14 years of marriage, I finally came to terms with who I am. I no longer have to pretend. I am out of the rut that ensnared me, and I am free from the lie I tried to live for so long.
That’s right, boys and girls. I have an admission to make. I can’t fix or repair anything. I am not, and have never been, Mr. Fix-It.
I know you’re wondering what finally made me come to terms with my truth, so I’ll tell you.
My son’s Xbox 360 stopped working, and rather than making things worse by trying to repair it, I called LaVeta, because, well, she’s better at fixing things than I am.
I wasn’t always comfortable enough to admit my shortcomings in this regard. In fact, there was a time in our marriage when I would go to great lengths to be macho in every way. Back then, I was still trying to prove myself to my wife.
In those halcyon days, when love was new and the kids were nothing more than a twinkle in my eye, LaVeta and I had time alone. In those precious moments, I wanted to be everything she could possibly desire in a man.
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Solomon Jones is an Essence bestselling author and award-winning columnist. He is the creator and editor of Solomonjones.com and morning host on 900 am WURD radio. Click here to learn more about Solomon
